Headship is not rulership; it is leadership.
Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christlike, servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home.
A wife is to submit graciously to the servant leadership of her husband even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ.
I know this is painful for the ladies to hear, but if you get married, you have accepted the headship of a man, your husband. Christ is the head of the household and the husband is the head of the wife, and that's the way it is, period.