You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.
My attitude is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.
It's almost as if we each have a vampire inside us. Controlling that beast, that dark side, is what fascinates me.
Your mind is nirvana.