I believe in courtesy, the ritual by which we avoid hurting other people's feelings by satisfying our own egos.
If you need help or advice, ask for it, but don't worry too much about hurting other people's feelings by not doing what they say. If your gut says no, trust it. Do what seems right.
I don't like to hurt people's feelings, and I don't like to knock other writers as a matter of principle.
Feelings are untidy ...
Hurting people is my business.
Sugar Ray Robinson
Be. Nice. To. Each. Other!