My parents have always been very concerned of making sure we know who we are and where we come from. I have to give them credit for that. Knowing your roots is quite important.
Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.
Good parents give their children Roots and Wings. Roots to know where home is, wings to fly away and exercise what's been taught them.
Your mind is nirvana.