These dilemmas present perhaps the most enduring conundrum of human history: can people derive their identity primarily by positive association or does life's meaning also require negative comparison to others?
I always imagine the world and myself above it and how minute one negative person's voice is in comparison to the amount of people that are in the world.
What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.