You walk into someone's house and they're dying, or they've got a family member who is dying. Your needs are minor; you're there to serve and to advise and to educate. You're not there to provide yourself.
We are dying from overthinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It's a death trap.
Family matters should be that and stay in the family.
The only club I have ever belonged to is the James Bond fan club. Member since 1979.
Your mind is nirvana.