I never ask for mercy and seek no one's sympathy.
A lot of actors find it impossible not to ask for the audience's sympathy. They have a need to twinkle.
Captain Hale, alone, without sympathy or support, save that from above, on the near approach of death asked for a clergyman to attend him. It was refused. He then requested a Bible; that too was refused by his inhuman jailer.
I believe that we must reach our brother, never toning down our fundamental oppositions, but meeting him when he asks to be met, with a reason for the faith that is in us, as well as with a loving sympathy for them as brothers.
You create your opportunities by asking for them.
Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us.