Top quotes by Andrew Bernstein

Nothing is given to man on earth - struggle is built into the nature of life, and conflict is possible - the hero is the man who lets no obstacle prevent him from pursuing the values he has chosen. Votes: 16

The number of stressors has multiplied exponentially: traffic, money, success, work/life balance, the economy, the environment, parenting, family conflict, relationships, disease. As the nature of human life has become far more complicated, our ancient stress response hasn't been able to keep up. Votes: 14

Stress is not the spice of life any more than arsenic is. And without it, you won't feel bored. Votes: 10

The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances. Votes: 10

A hero has faced it all: he need not be undefeated, but he must be undaunted. Votes: 10

To believe that your husband, wife, parents, kids, boss, job, bank account, or body is even partly responsible for your emotions, to think that there are bullets 'out there' that you have to contend with, that there are stressful life events to overcome, is to miss something vital. Votes: 9

Throughout history, independent minds have carried mankind forward. Whether they identified how to make fire or manufacture tools, develop rational philosophy or create man-glorifying art, pioneer scientific knowledge or invent the electric light, independent thinkers have created the goods on which human life and prosperity depend. Votes: 7

Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe. Votes: 7

During the financial crisis, I worked with hundreds of executives who struggled as a result of their thoughts about job security. When their beliefs changed, so did their emotional experience - and they were then able to focus on the task at hand more effectively. Votes: 6

Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements. Votes: 6

Stress is the negative whirlwind of emotions that gets imposed on top of our stimulation and engagement. Votes: 6

We need to distinguish between stress and stimulation. Having deadlines, setting goals, and pushing yourself to perform at capacity are stimulating. Stress is when you're anxious, upset, or frustrated, which dramatically reduce your ability to perform. Votes: 5

A hero holds purposes appropriate to man and is, therefore, a thinker. Votes: 4

If you're successful and stressed out, you're succeeding in spite of your stress, not because of it. Votes: 4

People around the world now complain about stressors everyday, and the word shows up throughout professional and lay literature. But in reality there is no such thing as a stressor. Why not? Because nothing has the inherent power to provoke stress. Votes: 4

Even in this secular country, the threat posed by religious fundamentalists is never very far away. Every major religious text exhorts the same principles - that of unyielding obedience to a supernatural being, and renunciation of the intellect and personal aspirations. Votes: 3

We all enjoy pushing ourselves to accomplish our objectives. But we don't need stress to get there. Votes: 0

Altruism demands that an individual serve others, but doesn’t stipulate whether those others should be one’s family, or the homeless, or society as a whole. Collectivism states that, in politics, society comes first and the individual must obey. Collectivism is the application of the altruist ethics to politics. Votes: 0

Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life. Votes: 0

Stress is a byproduct of subconscious beliefs you have about the world. You can't choose not to believe something. You believe it because you think it's true. To eliminate stress, you must learn to challenge these beliefs so that you see them differently. Votes: 0

Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today. Votes: 0

People often say that stress is a motivator. What we're referring to when we say this is really better described as stimulation and engagement. Votes: 0

Some people are so used to experiencing stress that they don't remember what life was like without it. Votes: 0

You can't tell yourself that your stress is produced in your head and feel better. You still need to learn how to create a change. Votes: 0

It's time we learned the truth about stress. It's time we identified the thoughts that actually create our stress and learned to dismantle them one by one. Votes: 0

The less you think counterfactually, the less you experience stress. Stress, in this light, isn't a bad thing. It's simply a warning system telling you that your mind has lost touch with what's real. Votes: 0

Here is the tragedy of theology in its distilled essence: The employment of high-powered human intellect, of genius, of profoundly rigorous logical deduction—studying nothing. In the Middle Ages, the great minds capable of transforming the world did not study the world; and so, for most of a millennium, as human beings screamed in agony—decaying from starvation, eaten by leprosy and plague, dying in droves in their twenties—the men of the mind, who could have provided their earthly salvation, abandoned them for otherworldly fantasies. Votes: 0

For the first time in history, the rational and the good are fully armed in the battle against evil. Here we finally find the answer to our paradox; now we can understand the nature of the social power held by evil. Ultimately, the evil, the irrational, truly has no power. The evil men’s control of morality is transient; it lives on borrowed time made possible only by the errors of the good. In time, as more honest men grasp the truth, evil’s stranglehold will be easily broken. Votes: 0

You might think that shifting your thoughts is as easy as setting your mind to it. But stressful thoughts aren't held in place through choice or will power. They're held in place through perceived truth value. Votes: 0

... statism systematically violates the rights of individuals and is, therefore, immoral. Because it suppresses the mind and violates men's rights, it thereby causes abysmal poverty and is utterly impractical. Votes: 0

Many argue that Christianity is "different" from other religions - that it is primarily about love of one's fellow man. The Crusades, The Inquisition, Calvin's Geneva all prove that this is not the case. These events were pre-eminently about obedience to authority. Votes: 0

Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them. Votes: 0

The hero is valorous because he stands up to every threat directed against his values. Heroism requires value conflict. Votes: 0

The more you worry, the more you throw off the delicate balance of hormones required for health. Votes: 0

The elusive truth is that there is nothing stress-producing in the physical world. Things simply are. Molecules move. Light and sound appear. Votes: 0

When a friend is sick, I see the situation for what it is, not what it isn't, and I offer to help as much as she wants, not as much as I want. Votes: 0

The reason humans experience so much more stress than other species isn't just because we think more, but also because we think differently. Votes: 0

Statism – the subordination of the individual to the state - leads inevitably to the most hideous oppression. Votes: -1