Top quotes by David Whyte

Honesty lies in understanding our close and necessary relationship with not wanting to hear the truth. Votes: 24

It might be liberating to think of human life as informed by losses and disappearances as much as by gifted appearances, allowing a more present participation and witness to the difficulty of living. Votes: 18

Poetry is often the art of overhearing yourself say things you didn't know you knew. It is a learned skill to force yourself to articulate your life, your present world or your possibilities for the future. Votes: 15

It is the province of poetry to be more realistic and present than the artificial narratives of an outer discourse, and not afraid of the truthful difficulty of the average human life. Votes: 14

Poetry is a street fighter. It has sharp elbows. It can look after itself. Poetry can't be used for manipulation; it's why you never see good poetry in advertising. Votes: 14

All of our great traditions, religious, contemplative and artistic, say that you must a learn how to be alone - and have a relationship with silence. It is difficult, but it can start with just the tiniest quiet moment. Votes: 13

Poetry gives us courage and sets us straight with the world. Poems are great companions and friends. Votes: 13

The great poems are not about experience, but are the experience itself, felt in the body. Votes: 10

Sincere regret may be a faculty for paying attention to the future, for sensing a new tide where we missed a previous one, for experiencing timelessness with a grandchild where we neglected a boy of our own. Votes: 9

Honesty is not found in revealing the truth, but in understanding how deeply afraid of it we are. To become honest is in effect to become fully and robustly incarnated into powerlessness. Votes: 8

Being a good parent will necessarily break our hearts as we watch a child grow and eventually choose their own way, even through many of the same heartbreaks we have traversed. Votes: 8

A sure sign of a soul-based workplace is excitement, enthusiasm, real passion; not manufactured passion, but real involvement. And there's very little fear. Votes: 8

I have hundreds of poems memorized. Mostly by others, but also my own. I use the poems when I lead retreats for management groups on topics like creating teams, or coming up with a more entrepreneurial system, or creating more excitement. Votes: 8

A good poem looks life straight in the face, unflinching, sincere, equal to revelation through loss or gain. Votes: 8

Without the compassionate understanding of the fear and trepidation that lie behind courageous speech, we are bound only to our arrogance. Votes: 7

By definition, poetry works with qualities and dynamics that mainstream society is reluctant to face head-on. It's an interesting phenomenon that by necessity, poetry is just below the radar. Votes: 7

There are many tough conversations, but one of the most difficult is between a parent and an adolescent daughter, partly because as a parent we are almost always attempting to relate to someone who is no longer there. Votes: 7

I don't have an all-embracing vision which people have to buy. I'm simply trying to work with the struggles we all deal with every day while we're trying to live out our personal destinies and make a living at the same time. Votes: 6

We learn, grow and become compassionate and generous as much through exile as homecoming, as much through loss as gain, as much through giving things away as in receiving what we believe to be our due. Votes: 6

In Germany, they have great difficulty with anything that smacks of cultism or messianic leadership. You can't talk about leadership in its charismatic forms. Votes: 6

Sometimes you have to make a complete disaster of your life in such an epic way that it will be absolutely clear to you what you've been doing. Votes: 6

Honesty allows us to live with not knowing. We do not know the full story; we do not know where we are in the story. We do not know who, ultimately, is at fault or who will carry the blame in the end. Votes: 6

To regret fully is to appreciate how high the stakes are in even the average human life; fully experienced, it turns our eyes, attentive and alert, to a future possibly lived better than our past. Votes: 6

Things have a way of being richer in the end, a product better made, for the circuitous route we take to include all the elements that are necessary for a job well done. Votes: 5

The ultimate lesson is that there is no immunity, no matter our age or the size of our retirement account, from going through constant cycles of integration and disintegration in which we are humbled and hopefully set to rights with the world again. Votes: 5

Honesty is grounded in humility and indeed in humiliation, and in admitting exactly where we are powerless. Votes: 4

The thing about great poetry is we have no defenses against it. Votes: 4

To admit regret is to understand that we are fallible - that there are powers beyond us. To admit regret is to lose control not only of a difficult past but of the very story we tell about our present. To admit sincere and abiding regret is one of our greatest but unspoken contemporary sins. Votes: 3

Lion sounds that have not grown from the mouse may exude naked power... but cannot convey any wisdom or understanding... The initial steps on the path to courageous speech then are the first tentative steps into the parts of us that cannot speak. Votes: 2

The greatest luxury of having money should be not having to worry about it. Votes: 2

In the poetic tradition, the heart's affections are indeed holy, and if organizations are asking for people's hearts and minds, they are asking in a way for their holy and hidden affections at the same time. Votes: 0

A soul-based workplace asks things of me that I didn't even know I had. It's constantly telling me that I belong to something large in the world. Votes: 0

There are millions of people living Thoreau's life of quiet desperation, and they do not have the language to escape from that desperation. Votes: 0

The marvelous thing about a good question is that it shapes our identity as much by the asking as it does by the answering. Votes: 0

I believe that human beings are desperate, always, to belong to something larger than themselves. Votes: 0

We're moving toward the kind of work world which has less security. But we hope it has more creativity and possibility of real engagement. Votes: 0

A real conversation always contains an invitation. You are inviting another person to reveal herself or himself to you, to tell you who they are or what they want. Votes: 0

Stop trying to change reality by attempting to eliminate complexity. Votes: 0

Regret is a short, evocative and achingly beautiful word: an elegy to lost possibilities even in its brief annunciation. Votes: 0

It is difficult to be creative and enthusiastic about anything for which we do not feel affection. Votes: 0

the lost sense that we play out our lives as part of a greater story Votes: 0

Jane Austen never did marry. Why doesthat statement call for such reflexive pity? It carries a diferent meaning if we follow it up: Jane Austen never did marry, and therefore she was given the time and perspective to produce books as well-written as those by anyone who ever lived. -David Whyte Votes: 0

It is the province of poetry to be more realistic and present than the artificial narratives of an outer discourse, and not afraid of the truthful difficulty of the average human life." Votes: 0

To give generously but appropriately and then, most difficult of all, and as the full apotheosis of the art, with feeling, in the moment and spontaneously, has always been recognized as one of the greatest of human qualities. Votes: 0

Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet confinement of your aloneness to learn anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you. Votes: 0

The fear of loss, in one form or another, is the motivator behind all conscious and unconscious dishonesties. Votes: 0

Silence is like a cradle holding our endeavors and our will; a silent spaciousness sustains us in our work and at the same time connects us to larger worlds that, in the busyness of our daily struggle to achieve, we have not yet investigated. Silence is the soul's break for freedom. Votes: 0

There's a fierce practicality and empiricism which the whole imaginative, lyrical aspect of poetry comes from. Votes: 0

Enough. These few words are enough If not these few words, this breath If not this breath, this sitting here This opening to the life we have refused again and again Until now Until now. Votes: 0

I love the best of all the traditions. My discipline is the take-no-prisoners language of good poetry, but a language that actually frees us from prejudice, no matter what religion or political persuasion they are. I try to create a river-like discourse. The river is not political, it's not on your side or against you. It's an invitation into the onward flow. Votes: 0

Honesty is reached through the doorway of grief and loss. Votes: 0

It's my contention that there is no sincere path a human being can take without breaking his or her heart...so it can be a lovely, merciful thing to think, 'Actually, there is no path I can take without having my heart broken, so why not get on with it and stop wanting these extra-special circumstances which stop me from doing something courageous?' Votes: 0

There is a lovely root to the word humiliation - from the latin word humus, meaning soil or ground. When we are humiliated, we are in effect returning to the ground of our being. Votes: 0

See, even if you're stuck in life, if you can describe just exactly the way you're stuck, then you will immediately recognise that you can't go on that way anymore. So, just saying precisely, writing precisely how you're stuck, or how you're alienated, opens up a door of freedom for you. Votes: 0

Absent the edge, we drown in numbness. Votes: 0

But what would that be like feeling the tide rise out of the numbness inside Votes: 0

Sometimes everything has to be inscribed across the heavens so you can find the one line already written inside you. Votes: 0

You must learn one thing. The world was made to be free in. Give up all the other worlds Except the one in which you belong. Votes: 0

Poetry is the art of overhearing ourselves say things from which it is impossible to retreat. Votes: 0

When I recite poems onstage, I put myself into the very personal struggle and it grants tremendous perspective. At the same time you get another perspective on the poem you're reciting. Votes: 0

The frail, vulnerable sounds of which we are capable seem to be essential to a later ability to roar like a lion without scaring everyone to death. Votes: 0

If in your mind it was possible to take a year's sabbatical from work to reassess your life, what would you do and where would you go? Votes: 0

We sabotage our creative possibilities because the world revealed by our imagination may not fit well with the life we have taken so much trouble to construct over the years. Faced with the pain of that distance, the distance between desire and reality, we turn just for a moment and quickly busy ourselves. Votes: 0

Being young and trying to catch a glimpse of the depths, of the true self, of the soul, or whatever human beings have called it over the centuries, we often find ourselves surrounded by bossy, hectoring voices trying to short-circuit our personal experience by super-imposing their own disappointments. Much of this bossiness masquerades as an education. Votes: 0

What if the world is holding its breath - waiting for you to take the place that only you can fill? Votes: 0

What you can plan is too small for you to live. What you can live wholeheartedly will make plans enough for the vitality hidden in your sleep. Votes: 0

The antidote to exhaustion isn't rest. It's wholeheartedness. Votes: 0

A good poem brims with reflected beauty and even a bracing, beautiful ugliness. At the center of our lives, in the midst of the busyness and the forgetting, is a story that makes sense when everything extraneous has been taken away. Votes: 0

One of the great difficulties as you rise up through an organisation is that your prior competencies are exploded and broken apart by the territory you've been promoted into: the field of human identity. Votes: 0

Questions that have no right to go away are those that have to do with the person we are about to become; they are conversations that will happen with or without our conscious participation. Votes: 0

Poetry carries the imagery which is large enough for the kind of life we want for ourselves. Votes: 0

We speak continually of saving time, but time in its richness is most often lost to us when we are busy without relief. Votes: 0

Eventually we realize that not knowing what to do is just as real and just as useful as knowing what to do. Not knowing stops us from taking false directions. Not knowing what to do, we start to pay real attention. Just as people lost in the wilderness, on a cliff face or in a blizzard pay attention with a kind of acuity that they would not have if they thought they knew where they were. Why? Because for those who are really lost, their life depends on paying real attention. If you think you know where you are, you stop looking. Votes: 0

The ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self: the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone. Votes: 0

Courage is the measure of our heartfelt participation with life, with another, with a community, a work, a future. To be courageous, is not necessarily to go anywhere or do anything except to make conscious those things we already feel deeply and then to live through the unending vulnerabilities of those consequences. Votes: 0

We withdraw not to disappear, but to find another ground from which to see; a solid ground from which to step, and from which to speak again, in a different way, a clear, rested, embodied voice we begin to remember again as our own. Votes: 0

Gratitude arises from paying attention, from being awake in the presence of everything that lives within and without us. Votes: 0

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the conversation. Pay attention to everything in the world as if it's alive. Realize everything has its own discrete existence outside your story. By doing this, you open to gifts and lessons that the world has to give you. Votes: 0

To have a firm persuasion in our work - to feel that what we do is right for ourselves and good for the world at exactly the same time - is one of the great triumphs of human existence. Votes: 0

Some things cannot be spoken or discovered until we have been stuck, incapacitated, or blown off course for awhile. Plain sailing is pleasant, but you are not going to explore many unknown realms that way. Votes: 0

I want to know if you know how to melt into that fierce heat of living falling toward the center of your longing. Votes: 0

Our work is to make ourselves visible in the world. This is the soul's individual journey, and the soul would much rather fail at its own life than succeed at someone else's. Votes: 0

The courageous conversation is the one you don't want to have. Votes: 0

As human beings we have this immediate gateway - you’ve just to articulate exactly the way that you’re exiled, exactly the way that you don’t belong, exactly the way that you can’t love, exactly the way that you can’t move ... and you’re on your way again. You’re on your way home. If you can just say exactly the way that you’re imprisoned - the door swings open. Votes: 0

To be human is to become visible while carrying what is hidden as a gift to others. Votes: 0

The moment you’ve uttered the exact dimensionality of your exile, you’re already turning towards home. Votes: 0

Courage is the measure of our heartfelt participation with life, with another, with a community, a work, a future. Votes: 0

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Desire demands only a constant attention to the unknown gravitational field which surrounds us and from which we can recharge ourselves every moment, as if breathing from the atmosphere of possibility itself. A life’s work is not a series of stepping-stones onto which we calmly place our feet, but more like an ocean crossing where there is no path, only a heading, a direction, which, of itself, is in conversation with the elements. Votes: 0

We are the only species on earth capable of preventing our own flowering. Votes: 0

I want to know if you are prepared to live in the world with its harsh need to change you. If you can look back with firm eyes saying this is where I stand. Votes: 0

You'll always love the person, if you're sensible. But you get a lot of people, especially in divorces and separations, doing a lot of damage to themselves, because they can't figure out that they actually still love this person, but not in their original way. Votes: 0

Anything that does not bring you alive is too small for you. Votes: 0

Whether we stay or whether we go - to be courageous is to stay close to the way we are made. Votes: 0

To forge an untouchable, invulnerable identity is actually a sign of retreat from this world; of weakness, a sign of fear rather than strength, and betrays a strange misunderstandin g of an abiding, foundational and necessary reality: that untouched, we disappear. Votes: 0

What is precious inside us does not care to be known by the mind in ways that diminish its presence. Votes: 0

I want to know if you are willing to live, day by day, with the consequence of love. Votes: 0

What we see as risk and foolhardiness on the outside, can seem more like constant cohesive drive on the inside that holds to priorities that cannot be discerned by others, because they reside in far too private a chamber of personal experience to be shared easily. To dare everything is not necessarily trouble, but often the opposite. To have faith in a foundation you have discovered in life and which, though it is difficult to describe even to yourself, you refuse to relinquish. Votes: 0

The greatest tragedy is to live out someone else's life thinking it was your own. Votes: 0

Some things cannot be spoken or discovered until we have been stuck, incapacitated, or blown off course for a while. Plain sailing is pleasant, but you are not going to explore many unknown realms that way. We articulate the truth of a situation by carrying the whole experience in the voice and allowing the process to blossom of its own accord. Out of the cross-grain of experience appears a voice that not only sums up the process we have gone through, but allows the soul to recognize in its timbre, the color, texture, and complicated entanglements of being alive. Votes: 0

Art is the act of triggering deep memories, of what it means to be fully human. Votes: 0

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the conversation. Votes: 0

When your eyes are tired the world is tired also. When your vision has gone no part of the world can find you. Time to go into the dark where the night has eyes to recognize its own. There you can be sure you are not beyond love. Votes: 0

Shedding the carapace we have been building so assiduously on the surface, we must by definition give up exactly what we thought was necessary to protect us from further harm. Votes: 0

Heartbreak is how we mature... There is almost no path a human being can follow that does not lead to heartbreak. Votes: 0

Heartbreak is our indication of sincerity: in a love relationship, in a work, in trying to learn a musical instrument, in the attempt to shape a better more generous self. Heartbreak is the beautifully helpless side of love and affection and is just as much an essence and emblem of care as the spiritual athlete's quick but abstract ability to let go... But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way... Votes: 0

To feel abandoned is to deny the intimacy of your surroundings. Votes: 0

The truth about our own modest contribution might immobilize us: much easier then, to tell ourselves a story about how much we make our own reality. Votes: 0

For the personality, bankruptcy or failure may be a disaster. For the soul, it may be grist for its strangely joyful mill, and a condition it has been secretly engineering for years. Votes: 0

I want to know if you are willing to live, day by day, with the consequence of love and the bitter unwanted passion of your sure defeat. I have heard, in that fierce embrace, even the gods speak of God. Votes: 0

There is no house like the house of belonging. Votes: 0

The severest test of work today, is not of our strategies, but of our imaginations and identities. Votes: 0

The price of our vitality is the sum of all our fears Votes: 0

To remember the other world in this world is to live in your true inheritance. Votes: 0

Inside everyone is a great shout of joy waiting to be born. Votes: 0

Your great mistake is to act the drama as if you were alone. Votes: 0

Poetry for me has been a long pilgrimage, a journey and a growing relationship with the unknown. Votes: 0

Everyone casts a shadow. Everyone has a relationship with the fearful unknown. Votes: 0

The tragedy with velocity as the answer to complexity is that, after awhile, you cannot see or comprehend anything that is not traveling at the same speed you are. And you actually start to feel disturbed by people who have a sense of restfulness to their existence. Votes: 0

and how we are all preparing for that abrupt waking, and that calling, and that moment we have to say yes, except it will not come so grandly, so Biblically, but more subtly and intimately in the face of the one you know you have to love Votes: 0

To seek out beauty in our work is to make a pilgrimage of our labors, to understand that the consummation of work lies not only in what we have done, but who we have become while accomplishing the task. Votes: 0

I returned to poetry as a more precise way to describe the world, more precise than science. Votes: 0

What we strive for in perfection is not what turns us into the lit angel we desire what disturbs and then nourishes has everything we need. Votes: 0

Genius is becoming something you were all along. Votes: 0

But what would that be like Votes: 0

The art form has to do with the mystery and the hidden invitation that's in the room. And that's when the magic happens, that's when the deep silence emerges to the surprise of all the attentively listening ears. In a way, you're following that silence. You go where the silence is deepest. Votes: 0

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the conversation. The kettle is singing even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots have left their arrogant aloofness and seen the good in you at last. All the birds and creatures of the world are unutterably themselves. Everything is waiting for you. Votes: 0

Shyness means you are in the hallway of a greater presence. You just don't know how to take the conversation another step. It's a lovely indication. Votes: 0

To feel a full and untrammeled joy is to have become fully generous; to allow our selves to be joyful is to have walked through the doorway of fear, the dropping away of the anxious worried self...the vulnerability of happiness felt suddenly as a strength, a solace and a source, the claiming of our place in the living conversation... Votes: 0

The workplace needs the poet's gift. But the poet also needs to be educated about the workplace. You're not just coming in to do your art, you're actually making yourself vulnerable. You yourself are not God's gift to truth. You have to hazard yourself in their world, especially because you're inviting people to do the same. It's all about become visible, becoming incarnate, becoming here and now and yet with our eyes on a future horizon; holding the conversation you were meant to hold. Votes: 0

It doesn't interest me if there is one God or many gods. I want to know if you belong or feel abandoned. If you know despair or can see it in others. Votes: 0

Those who will not slip beneath the still surface on the well of grief turning downward through it s black water to the place we cannot breathe will never know the source from which we drink, the secret water, cold and clear, nor find in the darkness glimmering the small round coins thrown by those who wished for something else. Votes: 0

Vulnerability is not a weakness but a faculty for understanding. Votes: 0

The outlaw is the radical, the one close to the roots of existence. The one who refuses to forget their humanity and, in remembering, helps everyone else remember, too. Votes: 0

Poetry is a break for freedom. Votes: 0

Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity. Votes: 0

We shape our self to fit this world and by the world are shaped again Votes: 0

What you plan is too small for you to live. Votes: 0

In England especially, poetry's woven into the background fabric of society. And in Ireland, it's in the foreground. The place of the poet in Irish society is enormous. If you say you're a poet in Ireland, you'd better know what you're doing, because the standard and the expectations are incredibly high. Votes: 0

If I don't have time for the writing, it's because I'm not making that time. It's really just a question of whether you want to or not, whether you feel you deserve to write or not. Votes: 0

A good poem has its own life. It's like bringing a child into the world. You, the poet, birthed the child, but the child will surprise you continually. I think a work of art has its own aliveness, its own future. Votes: 0