Top quotes by Lionel Shriver

You can call it innocence, or you can call it gullibility, but Celia made the most common mistake of the good-hearted: she assumed that everyone else was just like her. Votes: 15

Casting my own eye down Fifth Avenue as my belly swelled, I would register with incredulity: Every one of these people came from a woman's cunt. Votes: 10

A successful lie cannot be brought into this world and capriciously abandoned; like any committed relationship, it must be maintained, and with far more devotion than the truth, which carries on being carelessly true without any help. Votes: 6

They were determined to find something mechanically wrong with him - because broken machines are easier to fix. Votes: 6

The pediatrician must have thought me one of those neurotic mothers who craved distinction for her child but who in our civilization's latter-day degeneracy could only conceive of the exceptional in terms of deficiency or affliction. Votes: 5

Needing kindness myself, I am kinder now, and we get on amazingly well. [p. 110] Votes: 5

I was mortified by the prospect of becoming hopelessly trapped in someone else's story. Votes: 4

We white folks cling to such an abiding sense of entitlement that when things go amiss, we cannot let go of this tortuously sunny, idiotically cheerful doppelganger of a world that we deserve in which life is swell. Votes: 4

We white folks cling to such an abiding sense of entitlement that when things go amiss, we cannot let go of this tortuously sunny, idiotically cheerful doppelganger of a world that we deserve in which life is swell." Votes: 4

Besides, I'd heard too many Karen Carpenter tales at Gladstone PTA meetings, and they often took the form of boasts. The prestigious diagnosis of anorexia seemed much coveted not only by the students but by their mothers, who would compete over whose daughter ate less. No wonder the poor girls were a mess. Votes: 4

They were determined to find something mechanically wrong with him - because broken machines are easier to fix. p303 Votes: 4

I didn't care about anything. And there's a freedom in apathy, a wild, dizzying liberation on which you can almost get drunk. You can do anything. Ask Kevin. Votes: 4

Giving anyone anything takes courage, since so many presents backfire. A gift conspicuously at odds with your tastes serves only to betray that the benefactor has no earthly clue who you are. Votes: 3

In a country that doesn't discriminate between fame and infamy, the latter presents itself as plainly more achievable. Votes: 3

Life is never easy so that is why I never lie about my age. I want credit for every damned year. Votes: 3

Expectations are dangerous when they are both too high and unformed. Votes: 3

Not that happiness is dull. Only that it doesn't tell well. And of our consuming diversions as we age is to recite, not only to others but to ourselves, our own story. Votes: 2

A boy is a dangerous animal. Votes: 2

We need to recognise that slowing population growth is one of the most cost-effective and reliable ways of easing pressure on our environment and securing a sustainable future for us all Votes: 2

Now that children don't till your fields or take you in when you're incontinent, there is no sensible reason to have them, and it's amazing that with the advent of effective contraception anyone chooses to reproduce at all. Votes: 1

A petty one, but most resentments are. And one that for its smallness I felt obliged to repress. For that matter, that is the nature of resentment, the objection we cannot express. It is silence more than the complaint itself that makes the emotion so toxic, like poisons the body won't pee away. Votes: 1

This sounds idiotic, but every time I encounter a picture of myself I am shocked to have been seen. I do not, under ordinary circumstances, feel seen." Votes: 1

Perhaps I overemphasized the value of keeping busy.... I liked to imagine that I was incapable of doing nothing for afternoons myself, but maybe what disturbed me was that I was capable of it. I feared this was a knack one could get the hang of rather readily, and it was therefore now lurking in my house waiting for me to pick it up like a winter flu. Votes: 1

For that matter, thinking of one's self as exceptional is probably more the rule than not. Votes: 1

...whenever a woman describes a man as sweet, the dalliance is doomed. Votes: 1

But the one thing he could not have imagined is that we were withholding nothing. That there was nothing on the other side of our silly rules; nothing. Votes: 1

My own apathy is bone chilling. Votes: 1

It's an apathy so absolute that it's like a hole you might fall in. Votes: 1

The good life doesn't knock on the door. Joy is a job. Votes: 1

For women, marriages foreclosed often resulted in an accumulation of booty; for men, these failed projects of implausible optimism were more likely to manifest themselves in material lack. It was hard to resist the metaphorical impression that women got to keep the past itself, whereas men were simply robbed of it. Votes: 0

Time itself made all things rare. Votes: 0

Though it may be more romantic to picture the bereaved as gaunt, I imagine you can grieve as efficiently with chocolates as with tap water. Votes: 0

The most sumptuous experience of ingestion is in-between: remembering the last bite and looking forward to the next one. Votes: 0

For the living, death is thievery. Votes: 0

[Children] would have messed up my apartment. In the main, they are ungrateful. They would have siphoned too much time away from the writing of my precious books. Votes: 0

Reading time is precious. Don't waste it. Reading bad books, or books that are wrong for a certain time in your life, can dangerously turn you off the activity altogether. Votes: 0

It isn't very nice to admit, but domestic violence has its uses. So raw and unleashed, it tears away the veil of civilization that comes between us as much as it makes life possible. A poor substitute for the sort of passion we like to extol perhaps, but real love shares more in common with hatred and rage than it does with geniality or politeness. Votes: 0

...hoarders of guilty secrets are inevitably consumed with appearances. Votes: 0

...some people coddle their own afflictions the way others spoil small pedigreed dogs with cans of pate. Votes: 0

...You can only subject people to anguish who have a conscience. You can only punish people who have hopes to frustrate or attachments to sever; who worry what you think of them. You can really only punish people who are already a little bit good. Votes: 0

Built like an oak tree, against which I could pitch my pillow and read; mornings, I could curl into the crook of your branches. Votes: 0

But indifference would ultimately commend itself as a devastating weapon. Votes: 0

But keeping secrets is a discipline. I never use to think of myself as a good liar, but after having had some practice I had adopted the prevaricator's credo that one doesn't so much fabricate a lie as marry it. A successful lie cannot be brought into this world and capriciously abandoned; like any committed relationship it must be maintained, and with far more devotion than the truth, which carries on being carelessly true without any help. By contrast, my lie needed me as much as I needed it, and so demanded the constancy of wedlock: Till death do us part. Votes: 0

But what's so great about being a perfectionist?... You do all this work, and then the stuff you've made just pisses you off. Votes: 0

Change is like that: you are no longer where you were; you are not yet where you will get; you are nowhere exactly. Votes: 0

Children live in the same world we do. To kid ourselves that we can shelter them from it isn't just naive it's a vanity. Votes: 0

Everything people do that doesn’t work has to be somebody else’s fault. Next time you know, geezers’ll be suing the government for getting old and kids’ll be taking their mommies to court because they came out ugly. Votes: 0

Funny how the nature of a normal day is the first memory to fade. Votes: 0

Funny how you dig yourself into a hole by the teaspoon. Votes: 0

Got nothing to do with trying. You like someone, or you don't. If you're 'trying', you don't. Votes: 0

Half an ear cocked, something in me, all night, every night, is waiting for you to come home. Votes: 0

History is made of empires, and the United States was by far and away the greatest, richest, and fairest empire that had every dominated the earth. Inevitably, it would fall. Empires always did. But we were lucky, you said. We got to participate in the most fascinating social experiment ever attempted. Votes: 0

Holocausts do not amaze me. Rapes and child slavery do not amaze me. And Franklin, I know you feel otherwise, but Kevin does not amaze me. I am amazed when I drop a glove in the street and a teenager runs two blocks to return it. I am amazed when a checkout girl flashes me a wide smile with my change, though my own face had been a mask of expedience. Lost wallets posted to their owners, strangers who furnish meticulous directions, neighbors who water each other's houseplants - these things amaze me. Votes: 0

How lucky we are, when we're spared what we think we want! Votes: 0

However gnawing a deficiency, satiety is worse... We are meant to be hungry. Votes: 0

I am vain, or once was, and one of my vanities was to feign that I was not. Votes: 0

I first foreswore motherhood when I was about eight years old. ... [Children] were annoying. We were loud and sneaky and broke things. As an eight-year-old, maybe I was simply mortified by the prospect of being saddled with myself. Votes: 0

I have never in all my life considered you other people. Votes: 0

I have no end of failings as a mother, but I have always followed the rules. Votes: 0

I never, ever took you for granted. We met too late for that; I was nearly thirty-three by then, and my past without you was too stark and insistent for me to find the miracle of companionship ordinary. Votes: 0

I realize it's commonplace for parents to say to their child sternly, 'I love you, but I don't always like you.' But what kind of love is that? It seems to me that comes down to, 'I'm not oblivious to you - that is, you can still hurt my feelings - but I can't stand having you around.' Who wants to be loved like that? Given a choice, I might skip the deep blood tie and settle for being liked. I wonder if wouldn't have been more moved if my own mother had taken me in her arms and said, 'I like you.' I wonder if just enjoying your kid's company isn't more important. Votes: 0

I seem to remember even from when I was very young that when you loved someone you also hated them for making you love them, since loving someone is so incredibly humiliating. Votes: 0

I thought at the time that I couldn't be horrified anymore, or wounded. I suppose that's a common conceit, that you've already been so damaged that damage itself, in its totality, makes you safe. Votes: 0

I was suffering from the delusion that it's the thought that counts. Votes: 0

In the big picture I write for an audience of people I've never met. By the final draft I'm looking for anything in the prose that's prospectively boring to strangers. Votes: 0

In the particular dwells the tawdry. In the conceptual dwells the grand, the transcendent, the everlasting. Earthly countries and single malignant boys can go to hell; the idea of countries and the idea of sons triumph for eternity. Votes: 0

it is always difficult to impress the ignorant. Votes: 0

It is never persuasive to argue that you are not the kind of person who does what you are actually doing. Votes: 0

It's always the mother's fault, ain't it?" she said softly, collecting her coat. "That boy turn out bad cause his mama a drunk, or she a junkie. She let him run wild, she don't teach him right from wrong. She never home when he back from school. Nobody ever say his daddy a drunk, or his daddy not home after school. And nobody ever say they some kids just damned mean. ... Votes: 0

It's far less important to me to be liked these days than to be understood. Votes: 0

Kevin was a shell game in which all three cups were empty. Votes: 0

Lovers communicate not inside sentences, but between them. Passion lurks within interstice. It is grouting rather than bricks. Votes: 0

Maybe the greatest favour a spouse can tender is to overlook what you can't. Votes: 0

No eleven-year-old has any real grasp of death. He doesn't have any real concept of other people--that they feel pain, even that they exist. And his own adult future isn't real to him, either. Makes it that much easier to throw away. Votes: 0

Now, bitterly, with one sweep of the front door, the compassion was spent. To the degree that Lawrence's face was familiar, it was killingly so - as if she had been gradually getting to know him for over nine years and then, bang, he was known. She'd been handed her diploma. There were no more surprises - or only this last surprise, that there were no more surprises. To torture herself, Irina kept looking, and looking, at Lawrence's face, like turning the key in an ignition several times before resigning herself that the battery was dead. Votes: 0

Only a country that feels invulnerable can afford political turmoil as entertainment. Votes: 0

People seem to get used to anything, and it is a short step from adaptation to attachment. Votes: 0

Secrets bind and separate in strict accordance with who's in them . Votes: 0

Size is relative. If everyone is fat, no-one is fat Votes: 0

So many stories are determined before they start. Votes: 0

Teachers were both blamed for everything that went wrong with kids and turned to for their every salvation. This dual role of scapegoat and savior was downright messianic but even Jesus was probably paid better. Votes: 0

That boy hardly needed a mask when his naked face was already impenetrable. Votes: 0

The discovery that heartbreak is indeed heartbreaking consoles us about our humanity. Votes: 0

The existence of other people is essentially awkward. Votes: 0

The fact that my clothing has been visually available to other people I do not find upsetting. The body is another matter. It is mine; I have found it useful; but it is an avatar. Votes: 0

The only way my head was going truly somewhere else was to travel to a different life and not a different airport. Votes: 0

The secret is that there is no secret. Votes: 0

The Web, the great time-killer that had replaced conspicuously passive television with its seductive illusion of productivity. Votes: 0

There is one province in which, sooner or later, virtually everyone gets dealt a leading role--hero, heroine, or villain.... Unlike the slight implications of quotidian dilemmas that confront the average citizen in other areas of life ... the stakes in this realm could not be higher. For chances are that at some point along the line you will hold in your hands another person's heart. There is no greater responsibility on the planet. However you contend with this fragile organ, which pounds or seizes in accordance with your caprice, will take your full measure. Votes: 0

Though surely to avoid attachments for fear of loss is to avoid life. Votes: 0

We'd been assured it wouldn't be painful, though she might experience 'discomfort,' a term beloved of the medical profession that seems to be a synonym for agony that isn't yours. Votes: 0

When you've been afraid of something for long enough and it comes to pass, the terrible thing is a release. For in the belly of the badness there is no more fear. Votes: 0

Whoa, that's the kind of little sister I can dig!" said Edison. "Yes, we're all alike," I said. "We cover for you, we lie for you, we take the heat for you. We clean up your messes and mollify our parents for you. We never fail to come across with undying adoration, whether or not you deserve it, and we can't take our lives as seriously as yours. We snuffle up the crumbs from your table on the rare occasions you notice we're alive. Votes: 0

Worse, the deadly accuracy of filial faultfinding is facilitated by access, by trust, by willing disclosure, and so constitutes a double betrayal. Votes: 0

Yet if there's no reason to live without a child, how could there be with one? To answer one life with a successive life is simply to transfer the onus of purpose to the next generation; the displacements amounts to a cowardly and potentially infinite delay. Your children's answer, presumably, will be to procreate as well, and in doing so to distract themselves, to foist their own aimlessness onto their offspring. Votes: 0

Yet Irina had once tucked away, she wasn't sure when or why, that happiness is almost definitionally a condition of which you are not aware at the time. To inhabit your own contentment is to be wholly present, with no orbiting satellite to take clinical readings of the state of the planet. Conventionally, you grow conscious of happiness at the very point that it begins to elude you. When not misused to talk yourself into something - when not a lie - the h-word is a classification applied in retrospect. It is a bracketing assessment, a label only decisively pasted onto an era once it is over. Votes: 0

You were always uncomfortable with the rhetoric of emotion, which is quite a different matter from discomfort with emotion itself. Votes: 0

You were ambitious - for your life, what it was like when you woke up in the morning, and not for some attainment. Like most people who did not answer a particular calling from an early age, you placed work beside yourself; any occupation would fill up your day but not your heart. I liked that about you. I liked it enormously. Votes: 0

A lot of people get so hung up on what they can't have that they don't think for a second about whether they really want it. Votes: 0

I am in flight from my story every day, and it dogs me like a faithful stray. Votes: 0