Top quotes by Lisa See

It used to happen in villages and towns in China that they would have - I guess you'd call them beauty contests - where all of the women of a particular village or town would be seated behind these screens or curtains with only their feet showing. Votes: 18

I am an eighth Chinese, and I come from a large Chinese-American family in Los Angeles. Votes: 18

Opera tells stories through the pure emotion of music. An exhibition has to tell a story purely visually. I've tried to incorporate both of those things - pure emotion and being more visual - into my writing. Votes: 16

I don't really know anything about the movie business, even though I've lived in Los Angeles my whole life - somehow I've never bumped into it. Votes: 15

I think all women have a friend who at some point dumped them or betrayed them or deeply disappointed them. And at the same time all women have a friend who they dumped or betrayed or hurt in some way. That's universal in women's friendships. Votes: 12

Some of what I am doing when I am researching is looking for things people in my family have done and finding out what those things mean, why they did those things and seeing how I fit into them. Votes: 12

People come in and out of our lives, and the true test of friendship is whether you can pick back up right where you left off the last time you saw each other. Votes: 12

Having a baby is painful in order to show how serious a thing life is. Votes: 12

But there are certain books I would never put on a Kindle because you want to be able to look at graphs and photos or the footnotes and maps. You can't see that. Votes: 11

Nu shu means women's writing. And it was a secret writing system that was invented by women, used by women and kept a secret by women in one very remote county in China for a thousand years. It's the only language that was invented and used by women to have been found anywhere in the world. Votes: 10

In our country we call this type of mother love teng ai. My son has told me that in men's writing it is composed of two characters. The first means pain; the second means love. That is a mother's love. Votes: 9

And often it would be a woman who was in her 70s or 80s who would win the beauty contest, because bound feet never age. Votes: 8

Snow Flower was my old same for life. I had a greater and deeper love for her than I could ever feel for a person who was my husband. Votes: 8

I am still learning about love. I thought I understood it--not just mother love, but the love for one's parents, for one's husband, and for one's laotong. I've experienced the other types of love--pity love, respectful love and gratitude love. But looking at our secret fan with its messages written between Snow Flower and me over many years, I see that I didn't value the most important love--deep-heart love. Votes: 8

All women on earth-- and men, too for that matter-- hope for the kind of love that transforms us, raises us up out of the everyday, & gives us the courage to survive our little deaths: the heartache of unfulfilled dreams, of career and personal disappointments, of broken love affairs. Votes: 8

The classics tell us that, in relationships, the one between teacher and student comes second only to the one between parent and child. Votes: 7

But, you know, I just did a big trip in the spring to Vietnam and Cambodia and Thailand, and that's when I bought a Kindle. I have like 15 books on this one little gizmo. But when I came home, the first night I picked up the book that was on my nightstand and I went right back to that. Votes: 7

I've come to believe that part of lovesickness comes from this conflict between control and desire. In love we have no control. Our hearts and minds are tormented, teased, enticed and delighted by the overwhelming strength of emotions that make us try to forget the real world. Votes: 5

Gone were my girlish ideas about romantic love and my later ideas about sexual love. From Yi, I learned to appreciate deep-heart love. Peony in Love Votes: 5

All women on earth-- and men, too for that matter-- hope for the kind of love that transforms us, raises us up out of the everyday, & gives us the courage to survive our little deaths: the heartache of unfulfilled dreams, of career and personal disappointments, of broken love affairs." Votes: 4

The fear of death was a powerful aphrodisiac. Votes: 4

Anyone who says that women do not have influence in men's decisions makes a vast and stupid mistake. Votes: 4

All these types of love come out of duty, respect, and gratitude. Most of them, as the women in my county know, are sources of sadness, rupture, and brutality. Votes: 4

My hardcover sales are 17% down in books but up 400% in electronics. Votes: 4

A brave heart? It feels like a swollen and aching thing in my chest. Votes: 3

Our words had to be circumspect. We could not write anything too negative about our circumstances. This was tricky, since the very form of a married woman's letter needed to include the usual complaints -- that we were pathetic, powerless, worked to the bone, homesick, and sad. We were supposed to speak directly about our feelings without appearing ungrateful, no-account, or unfilial. Votes: 2

I didn't know you would be here last night, but you were. We can't fight fate. Instead, we must accept that fate has given us a special opportunity. Votes: 2

I write a thousand words a day. Votes: 2

In that moment I understood that the cruelest words in the universe are if only. Votes: 1

One of the things that's pretty unique about nu shu, when you look especially at these old letters and stories that have been saved, is that there are certain lines that are very standard that are used again and again. It's almost like a formula in a sense, so that these certain lines come up again and again. Votes: 1

I think sometimes as an adult, you take people for what they do, and what they are now, instead of the whole picture of their lives. Votes: 0

a laotong relationship is made by choice...when we first looked in each other's eyes in the palanquin I felt something special pass between us--like a spark to start a fire or a seed to grow rice. But a single spark is not enough to warm a room nor is a single seed enough to grow a fruitful crop. Deep love--true-heart love--must grow. Votes: 0

And one of the interesting things about bound feet is that they never age. Votes: 0

Don't ever feel that you have to hide who you are. Nothing good ever comes from keeping secrets like that. Votes: 0

Dreaming, dreaming, dreaming -- weren't our dreams what gave us strength, hope, and desire? Votes: 0

For my entire life I longed for love. I knew it was not right for me — as a girl and later as a woman — to want or expect it, but I did, and this unjustified desire has been at the root of every problem I have experienced in my life. Votes: 0

He was in my hair, my eyes, my fingers, my heart. I day-dreamed about what he was doing, thinking, seeing, smelling, feeling. I could not eat for thoughts of him. Votes: 0

How can we not create a fantasy in our minds when the reality is so hard? Votes: 0

I am old enough to know only too well my good and bad qualities, which were often one in the same. Votes: 0

I know a lot about women and their suffering, but I still know almost nothing about men. Votes: 0

I love research. I'd go so far as to say I'm a research fanatic. Votes: 0

I think to really be literate in nu shu you only need about 600 characters because it is phonetic. So you're able to then create many words out of one character. Votes: 0

I wonder if there was anything I would have done differently. I hope I would have done everything differently, except I know everything would have turned out the same. That's the meaning of fate. Votes: 0

i would rather be married to broken jade than flawless clay Votes: 0

I’ve never thought much about whether I was happy or if I had fun as a child. I was a so-so girl who lived with a so-so family in a so-so village. I didn’t know that there might be another way to live, and I didn’t worry about it either. Votes: 0

If it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband's family, why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children? We are their caretakers. We love them. We nurse them when they are sick. . . But no woman should live longer than her children. It is against the law of nature. If she does, why wouldn't she wish to leap from a cliff, hang from a branch, or swallow lye? Votes: 0

In every message she spoke of birds, of flight, of the world away. Even back then, she flew against what was presented to her. I wanted to cling to her wings and soar, no matter how intimidated I was. Votes: 0

It's funny how in that moment I see things clearly. Am I beaten down? Yes. Have I allowed myself to become a victim? Somewhat. Am I afraid? Always. Does some part of me still long to fly away from this place? Absolutely. But I can't leave. Sam and I have built a life for Joy. It isn't perfect, but it's a life. My family's happiness means more to me that starting over again. Page 210 Votes: 0

Let those who believe, believe. Let those who doubt, doubt. Votes: 0

Mama used to tell us a story about a cicada sitting high in a tree. It chirps and drinks in dew, oblivious to the praying mantis behind it. The mantis arches up its front leg to stab the cicada, but it doesn't know an oriole perches behind it. The bird stretches out its neck to snap up the mantis for a midday meal, but its unaware of the boy who's come into the garden with a net. Three creatures—the cicada, the mantis and the oriole—all coveted gains without being aware of the greater and inescapable danger that was coming. Votes: 0

May and I are sisters. We'll always fight, but we'll always make up as well. That's what sisters do: we argue, we point out each other's frailties, mistakes, and bad judgment, we flash the insecurities we've had since childhood, and then we come back together. Until the next time. Votes: 0

Maybe we're all like that with our mothers. They seem ordinary until one day they're extraordinary. Votes: 0

Model communes are the ones where the leaders lie the best and the biggest. Votes: 0

My heart is empty & my life has no value anymore. Each moment a thousand tears. Votes: 0

My love for him had never gone away but only changed, growing deeper like wine fermenting or pickles curing. It bore into me with the pervasiveness of water working its way to the center of a mountain. Votes: 0

Obey, obey, obey, then do what you want. Votes: 0

Parents die, daughters grow up and marry out, but sisters are for life. Votes: 0

People say you need to be strong, smart, and lucky to survive hard times, war, a natural disaster, or physical torture. But I say emotional abuse—anxiety, fear, guilt, and degradation—is far worse and much harder to survive. Votes: 0

People write to me all the time, and I write back. Votes: 0

Perhaps he was afraid as I was that we'd be caught. Or perhaps he was breathing me in just as I was letting him come into my lungs, my eyes, my heart. Votes: 0

Poetry is on earth to make you serene, not corrupt your mind, thoughts,or emotions Votes: 0

Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river. Votes: 0

Seeing something once is better than hearing about it a hundred times. Doing something once is better than seeing it a hundred times. Votes: 0

She loves you. She's just forgotten how to show it. Votes: 0

Sisters, as you know, also have a unique relationship. This is the person who has known you your entire life, who should love you and stand by you no matter what, and yet it's your sister who knows exactly where to drive the knife to hurt you the most. Votes: 0

The greatest calling of all is to have a literary life. Votes: 0

There is no life without death. That is the true meaning of yin and yang Votes: 0

We hug, but there are no tears. For every awful thing that's been said and done, she is my sister. Parents die, daughters grow up and marry out, but sisters are for life. She is the only person left in the world who shares my memories of our childhood, our parents, our Shanghai, our struggles, our sorrows, and, yes, even our moments of happiness and triumph. My sister is the one person who truly knows me, as I know her. The last thing May says to me is 'When our hair is white, we'll still have our sister love. Votes: 0

We're told that men are strong & brave, but I think women know how to endure, accept defeat & bear physical & mental agony much better than men. Votes: 0

What stays with me most is a general sense of loss, unease, and longing for the past that cannot be relieved. Votes: 0

When I knew I couldn't suffer another moment of pain, and tears fell on my bloody bindings, my mother spoke softly into my ear, encouraging me to go one more hour, one more day, one more week, reminding me of the rewards I would have if I carried on a little longer. In this way, she taught me how to endure — not just the physical trials of footbinding and childbearing but the more torturous pain of the heart, mind, and soul. Votes: 0

When people are alive they love, when they die, they keep loving. If love ends when person dies, that is not real love Votes: 0

When the sun is shining, think of the time it won't be, because even when you're sitting in your house with the doors shut, misfortune can fall from above. Page 279 Votes: 0

When you don’t have much, having less isn’t so bad. Votes: 0

While she is lovely, we need to remember that her face is not what distinguishes her. Her beauty is a reflection of the virtue and talent she keeps inside. Votes: 0

You make choices that are good and sound, but the gods have other plans for you. Votes: 0

You may be desperate, but never let anyone see you as anything less than a cultivated woman. Votes: 0

You can't fight your fate...It is predestined. Votes: 0