Men and women have different ideas of what constitutes tidiness. I tend to think it's about things being clean, but my mum and girlfriend are more about how things look.
Being a good mother does not call for the same qualities as being a good housewife; a dedication to keeping children clean and tidy may override an interest in their separate development as individuals.
Being humble matters.
Clean up your own mess.
I can't focus when there's too many things around. Whenever I used to go to the office, I used to always say, 'Tidy up.'