How Do I Forgive?
Please don't misunderstand What forgiveness is. Forgiveness excusing the
offender or minimizing their offense. Forgiveness is your decision to Cancel the debt
they rightfully owe you. Many protest here and become stuck because they are rightly
deserving of justice or an apology or some restitution for the offenses done to them. They
don't want to cancel the debt owed because it feels so unfair to them. Yet if they are waiting
the person to repent or apologize or show remorse, they may wait a very long time.
the Old Testament story, Joseph forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery. Joseph's
- obedience freed him to be used by God in Egypt. But Joseph never initiated reconciliation
With his betrayers, nor did he expose himself to them when he first saw them again. Why? He
did not trust them. He.was kind and gracious to them because he forgave them, but he tested them
to' see .if they had repented and changed their jealous and self-centered ways. Joseph invited them
back Vinto relationshiö"ih him after they passed the test (see Genesis 42:46). Joseph's forgiveness
d ,hiö brothers' repentance were both necessary to bring reconciliation and restoration to their
For some of you,-you may never see repentance from the person who hurt you. Sandy lived stuck in
her past, anoey that her husband left her for oounger woman. She refused to give up her anger after
What he Sandy's anger and lack Of forgiveness wasn't hurting Sandy's ex-husband.
He lived selishl/just.s he always did. It was Sandy's life that was hurt by her angry and bitter heart. Finally
forgiving her ex released Sandy from those toxic emotions. Her former husband Will still have to give an
account for what he did to Sandy, only it will be God, not Sandy who will judge him.